Overcoming Microaggressions with Grace and Power

Microaggressions, those seemingly small but impactful slights, are an unfortunate reality for many people of colour. They can take the form of questions like, “But where are you really from?” or comments such as, “You’re so articulate.” While they may not always be malicious, they highlight the biases and stereotypes that persist in society. Experiencing microaggressions can leave you feeling frustrated, exhausted, or even questioning your own worth.

Addressing these moments is a deeply personal decision. Sometimes, responding in the moment with a calm but direct comment—like, “What do you mean by that?”—can be an opportunity to educate others. Other times, prioritizing your emotional well-being might mean choosing not to engage. Whatever your choice, it’s crucial to acknowledge the impact these interactions have on you and to practice self-care. Vent to trusted friends or journal about your experiences to release the emotional weight.

It’s also important to build a toolkit for navigating these situations. Whether it’s finding ways to redirect conversations, setting boundaries, or connecting with others who share similar experiences, you can reclaim your power. Remember, microaggressions are reflections of someone else’s biases, not your value. By choosing how to respond, you assert your dignity and reinforce your self-worth.

Nereah Felix is an EMDR-trained therapist who supports the healing of BIPOC individuals at Catharsis Psychology and Psychotherapy in Ontario.